The customer wasn't much of a crocheter; her stitches weren't always that even. She only knew one stitch and didn't know what it was called. She was used to cheap acrylic: It’s machine washable and works up into a nice big throw for not much money. But her mother was in a nursing home, and in ailing health. The price of the yarn took her aback: at well over $100 for a 36x48 inch (or so) blanket – that much money was enough to make a few full afghans in the acrylic. But this stuff felt really wonderful. It called out to her, most personally.
I urged her to consider carefully: Nice things in nursing homes can disappear. And if they don’t disappear, they can get ruined when laundered in the commercial-grade washers and dryers. The customer’s mother might get very little use of the finished product, for all the love that went into making it. There were other yarns in the shop that were machine washable, in nice colors, and much less expensive.
The customer thought about it, then came back later and bought the yarn. I am sure she enjoyed her time with the yarn, as well as the pleasure the finished project gave her mother. Good all around.
Trying to help people can be tricky. There is an urge to steer folks to what is appropriate, stitching with safe yarns for predictable results. Avoid the embarrassment of sending luxurious yarns out into the world as finished projects with crooked edges, awkward shapes and sizes, and uneven stitching and finishing.
We live in a curated society, with all kinds of people making decisions for us, providing us with an appropriate selection of appropriate options to ensure our appropriate success. We've also been trained to consult others before trying anything new, lest we make a wrong choice and end up with (gasp!) an unanticipated result.
There comes a question of choosing between learning how to follow instructions and learning the craft. When all the patterns start looking alike – or don’t turn out as nicely as you expected – it may be time to wander past all the curators. In order to do things well, sometimes it is good to do them well-enough. That doesn't mean ignoring what has been done before. Learning from others is a good thing, and so is making informed decisions. But it is good to learn for oneself.
The great thing about crocheting and knitting is that they are still legal: There is no knitting or crocheting police. Play with unconventional materials, like fabric strips, wire, fishing line, or twine – and even with really nice yarns – and hold it up to the light of reality. That’s when the craft becomes the cost-effective, obvious choice for making wonderful things in our lives, for ourselves and for those we love.